When Kids Are Bullied About Weight

It’s natural for kids to think about how much they weigh sometimes. But if your child comes home from school and suddenly talks about being fat, she might be being teased about her size.

You’ll want to comfort and reassure her. But you should also talk to her about how she feels and how she wants to handle the situation.

You may not be able to keep bullies off the playground, but you can let her know that being healthy is the most important thing, not how she looks.

What You Can Do

You can start by making her feel loved. Let her know that you want to work on the situation together.

"I love you. You're a beautiful girl. We'll figure this out and make it better."

Explain to your child that teasing and bullying is always wrong. Ask if she'd like you to talk to the teacher or principal and explain what's happening.

"It's absolutely wrong to make fun of people based on how they look. We're all different."

Start a conversation with your child about how the teasing made her feel.

"How did it make you feel when the kids talked to you like that?" Or "What do you think about what they said?"

If your child says that what happened made her want to lose weight, it’s time to switch her focus from shedding pounds to being healthy. Work together to come up with a plan. When your child is involved in the process -- choosing healthy foods and activities, for example -- she'll be more likely to want to stick with it.

Point out that it’s good for the whole family to make better choices, whether it's exercising a little more or working on eating a little better.

"What matters is not how much you weigh, but how healthy your body is. What kinds of things do you think we can work on as a family for all of us to be healthier?"

Good Habits for the Whole Family

First, plan to talk to your pediatrician or family doctor. Call ahead of time to let her know that you'd like her to talk with your child about healthy weight when you visit. She can also measure your child's height and weight to figure out her body mass index (BMI) and see if she really is overweight.

Then, take the opportunity to get your whole family to make smart changes. If everyone picks healthier food or exercises more, your child who is worried about her weight won’t feel singled out. Sit down as a family and let everyone come up with ideas. Start small and focus on one new goal every week or two.

Get started with these tips:

  • Have a vegetable with every meal.
  • Go outside and be active every day for 30 minutes.
  • Have two pieces of fruit a day.
  • Eat fast food no more than once a week.
WebMD Medical Reference Reviewed by Renee A. Alli, MD on October 16, 2017

Sources

SOURCES:

Janssen, I. Pediatrics, May 1, 2004; vol 113: pp 1187-1194.

Stephanie Walsh, MD, medical director of child wellness, Children’s Healthcare of Atlanta; assistant professor of pediatrics, Emory University School of Medicine.

Marlene Schwartz, PhD, deputy director, Yale Rudd Center for Food Policy & Obesity.

Melinda Sothern, PhD, professor, Louisiana State University Health Sciences Center; co-author, Trim Kids, William Morrow Paperbacks, 2003.

Susan Bartell, PsyD, family psychologist and FIT consultant, Port Washington, N.Y.

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