Helping Your Child Build Inner Strength - How Can You Help Children Build Inner Strength?

The single most important thing you can do to help your children is to show that you love them no matter what.

Knowing that you are close by and available gives your children a sense of security. Although your children's world is expanding, you remain their primary influence.

Always remember that you are a role model. Your children learn by watching you. So be sure that your actions and behaviors teach them how to:

  • Show love and affection.
  • Control anger.
  • Work with other people rather than against them.
  • Stay calm.
  • Look forward to tomorrow.
  • Express feelings.
  • Be brave.
  • Laugh.

Safety and security

To build inner strength, children need to feel loved and safe. They need a family that is close, that spends regular time together, and that offers a safe haven as they grow.

  • Make sure that your child feels safeMake sure that your child feels safe. Your child is more likely to feel safe and secure if you are dependable, consistent, respectful, and responsive. These qualities are especially important for parents of preschool children, because these children are gaining a basic sense of trust in themselves and in the important people in their lives.
  • Encourage safe explorationEncourage safe exploration. Children need to explore. Children who explore learn new skills and how to solve problems. They learn that actions have consequences, and that causes have effects. Offer a variety of things to play with, read, create, and build. It might be hard, but try not to limit your child because of safety fears. Instead, do what you can to keep the child safe as he or she explores the world.

Social support


Confidence and independence

Caring about other people

Empathy is an important part of building inner strength. It means that a child can recognize and appreciate how others are feeling. It means that a child cares when others feel bad and that the child wants to help them.

You can help your child learn empathy by demonstrating it in your own life and talking with your child about it.

  • Volunteering. Do volunteer work. If you can, take your child with you.
  • Sharing. Teach your child the importance of sharing.
  • Helping. Let your child help you with household chores, and show how happy it makes you to have help.

Helping others can help children learn that they have the power to make others feel better.


Self-control and teaching your child what's right

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