For teens and tweens with ADHD, simple tasks like cleaning their room or doing homework can seem to take forever, to you and them. And trying to enforce these tasks may often lead to arguments and frustration.
By teaching time management, you can make these daily responsibilities more manageable and lessen the stress for everyone. These life skills will also allow your child to become more independent. He’ll gain confidence in knowing he can take care of himself.
An unplanned day can seem overwhelming to a child with ADHD. There are ways to make things more manageable for you and your teen or tween.
Sit down with your child and make a list of all of his daily responsibilities. Together, break down big activities into smaller steps, and decide how long he needs for each task. Don’t make the schedule just about tasks. Schedule breaks and other activities your child wants to do.
As much as possible, schedule activities for the same times every day, so they’re easier for your teen to remember. If you know your mornings are rushed, why not plan for him to pick out clothes or put homework in his backpack the night before, when the pace is a bit slower?
Put the list where you both can see it. Have your child cross off each item when finished. Kids get a sense of accomplishment from knowing they've completed tasks.
It may be scheduled homework time, but when you check in, you find your child still sharpening pencils a half-hour later. It’s common for kids with ADHD to put off doing things.
Stick to the start and end times you agreed on for each task. Set a timer for each activity, and make his goal to finish tasks before the timer dings. Make sure to reward success. An incentive-based program with rewards for positive behavior is the best approach, but there need to be consequences for missing the mark.