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Does your husband complain that you never listen? Does your wife say she feels like you’re just one more child in the house? Have your friends lost patience with your chronic lateness?

Adult attention deficit hyperactivity disorder could be to blame. Although ADHD is thought of as a childhood problem, experts believe it can linger into adulthood in the majority of cases diagnosed in children. And if you don’t know you have the condition, it could be wreaking havoc on your relationships.

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You might find that friends or family think you’re irritating, that you interrupt a lot, or you’re a nuisance, says psychologist Arthur Robin, PhD, professor of psychiatry and behavioral neurosciences at Wayne State University in Detroit. “Sometimes, the person with ADHD will sense this, but other times they won’t sense it until they’re hit over the head with it -- they’re oblivious to what’s going on.”

And that’s part of the problem. Adult ADHD may affect your life so dramatically that you don’t even realize there’s an issue. Because of this, adults struggling with ADHD often aren’t evaluated for the condition.

Is Adult ADHD Straining Your Relationship? 5 Warning Signs

While everyone is different, some common problems seem to consistently affect the relationships of adults with ADHD. If the following five complaints sound familiar to you, it might be time to consider whether adult ADHD is having a negative impact on your relationships.

1. ''Do you even hear what I’m saying?''

One of the most common complaints about people with ADHD is that they don’t listen -- even when someone is talking directly to them. That was the case for Gina Pera, whose husband has adult ADHD.

''The problem isn’t working on communication between you and your partner -- the communication problems are happening between their neurons,'' says Pera, author of Is it You, Me, or Adult ADD? Stopping the Roller Coaster When Someone You Love Has Attention Deficit Disorder. ''They’re not hearing what you’re saying. They’re distracted by the fifth word or they’re hearing what they want to hear.''

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