Pregnancy Violations: Don’t Be a Victim
Scary labor stories, probing questions, unsolicited belly-rubbing: How can a mom-to-be handle these pregnancy etiquette violations gracefully?
Just Say No!
While using clever psychology can help, Brennan reminds us that, be it
touching or commentary, it's also appropriate to express your displeasure with
how you are being treated.
"It's really OK if sometimes you just have to say, 'Please don't do
that, it makes me uncomfortable,'" says Brennan. This, she says, can be a
particularly helpful tactic with people you see every day, like co-workers.
Indeed, the most stressful pregnancy situations often occur not with
strangers, but with colleagues. It can be hard for a pregnant woman to maintain
her privacy without insulting the people she interacts with on a daily
Rachel Weingarten, author of Corporate and Career Cool, says
maintaining a professional attitude is another smart way to cope.
"You can say no without having to say it, if you simply maintain a
strong sense of corporate 'cool' and professionalism," says
Weingarten. By maintaining your own sense of professional decorum, she
says, you can help co-workers continue to view you as a colleague, and not a
pregnant colleague, which in turn can circumvent some of the inappropriate
Though this won't stop some people from becoming overly familiar, she says,
"The more professional your attitude, the more professional decorum they
are likely to observe around you."
Bennett agrees but adds this final piece of advice: "It's also important
to remember that you don't have to give up the perks of pregnancy, like working
from home two days of the week, just to maintain your decorum; just this once,
you really are entitled to have it both ways!"
Colette Bouchez is the author of Your Perfectly Pampered Pregnancy:
Health, Beauty and Lifestyle Advice for the Modern Mother-to-Be and founder
and director of www.PamperingMom.com.