By Gina ShawJody, Carrie, and Jenny look back at how far they've come together − and look forward to a sweet future with their daughters.
For the past year, Jody Urbas, 34, Carrie Brainerd, 32, and Jenny Taylor, 28, have shared with REDBOOK readers the most intimate details of their lives as they went through pregnancy, miscarriage, fertility treatments, and all the ups and downs along the path to motherhood. As we revisit these three friends, Jenny celebrates her daughter's first birthday, Carrie...
"You've got to calm down and let nature take its course."
If you've been trying six months or more to get pregnant, you've probably lost count of the number of times well-meaning friends and family offered this or similar advice.
Though the idea that "trying too hard" was once a popular notion, dramatic advances in infertility treatments -- particularly in the past decade -- all but did away with that idea.
Now, however, the wheel has turned yet again, and doctors are once more looking to the idea that stress -- and sometimes "trying too hard" -- may actually play a role in up to 30% of all infertility problems.
"It's becoming more and more important, in terms of what studies we do, to focus our efforts on the physiological effects of stress and how they may play a role in conception," says Margareta D. Pisarska, MD, co-director of Center for Reproductive Medicine at Cedars Sinai Medical Center in Los Angeles and editor-in-chief of the American Society for Reproductive Medicine News.
While doctors say that right now there aren't enough data to draw a clear and obvious link, many believe it's only a matter of time before we connect all the dots and see the bigger picture.
"What we do know now is that when stress-reduction techniques are employed, something happens in some women that allows them to get pregnant when they couldn't get pregnant before," says Allen Morgan, MD, director of Shore Institute for Reproductive Medicine in Lakewood, N.J.
While the exact pathways between fertility and stress remain a mystery, Morgan believes hormones like cortisol or epinephrine -- which rise and often remain high during times of chronic stress -- play a key role.
Morgan says that it's also possible that reducing stress may help enhance proteins within the uterine lining that are involved in implantation. She says that stress reduction may increase blood flow to the uterus, which also affects conception.
The Science of Stress and Fertility
Pisarska tells WebMD that the effects of stress may be different for each woman.