10 Ways to Make Your Relationship More Thrilling
The start of a relationship is exciting, risky, even a bit
scary, and we savor every slightly out-of-control minute of it. "I'm crazy
for him," we say. "He makes my heart pound." That early
relationship thrill comes from the high of discovery.
1. Scare yourselves silly
Medical experts liken the body's fear response to sexual arousal -- our
pulse quickens and we break out in a sweat, which may explain why people
voluntarily bungee-jump or descend full speed down glaciers on skis. We get a
rush from being scared in a somewhat controlled environment, and when we do it
with a partner, we're brought together by the feeling of having conquered our
fears hand in hand. Carol Worthington, 39, of Baltimore, can attest to this:
"My husband, Brian, wanted to go skydiving, and even though it wasn't my
idea of fun, I decided to go with him so we could share the thrill. It was the
scariest thing I've ever done, but also one of the most exciting moments of our
married life together."
Granted, jumping out of a plane may be more stimulation than many of us ever
care to experience, but there's always the rock-climbing wall at your gym, the
scream machine of your choice at the local amusement park or just watching a
scary movie together in the dark.
2. Spill a secret
Intimacy and thrills go hand in hand, which is probably why the initial
getting-to-know-you period at the beginning of a relationship is so exciting.
Walking along the beach on vacation, after we'd been married for five years, my
husband and I dared each other to reveal one secret about ourselves. After
first insisting, "But I keep nothing from you!" I got up the guts to
tell him about the M&Ms I keep hidden in the drawer with my gym clothes,
and he told me he'd lost the stuffed dolphin I'd given him on our first
3. Place a bet
You and your husband have $20 on Hootenanny to win in the sixth race. He
rounds the far turn three back from the lead, but he's closing in fast. The
horses thunder past you down the stretch, and Hootenanny wins by a nose! You
jump into your husband's arms and suddenly realize you're having a blast. The
adrenaline rush, the decadence of throwing caution (and a few bucks) to the
wind and the slightly sleazy atmosphere of the track or your average casino all
make gambling a great way to inject a little pizzazz into your relationship. Of
course, you don't have to wager your hard-earned cash to get the same effect:
Try playing strip poker in your living room after the kids go to bed or going
to a pool hall and betting on who has to make dinner for the next week.