7 Marriage Tips to Stay Lucky in Love
Getting hitched on "lucky" 7-7-07? Besides luck, try this advice to have a happy marriage.
Marriage Tip No. 7: If you're the wife, lower your expectations. If you're the husband, step up to the plate.
When Steve Brody and his wife, Cathy Brody, MFT, a marriage and family
counselor, toured the country to promote their book, Renew Your
Marriage at Midlife, they asked audiences what they wanted from
"Women expected to be loved, cherished, listened to, cared for, and
courted," Steve Brody says. They had a long list of wants and expectations,
he recalls. The men joked that their expectations were more basic:
Their typical answers, Brody says: "Bring food and show up naked."
While the men were half joking, the gaps in expectations are a good lesson.
To close the gap, Brody says, women need to lower their expectations -- to not
expect 24/7 romance, for instance, especially if their mate has just worked an
unbelievably long week.
Men need to do some of the things the woman wants, such as prioritize their
relationship and listen more, he says. In a nutshell, Brody says, "Men need
to do the same things at home that they do at work." He tells the husbands
he counsels to think of it this way: "Your wife is the million-dollar
client. If she walks out the door, the business is closed."