The 7 Steps to Happily Ever After
Step 2: Ignite (and reignite) a sexual connection.
In any good relationship, sex is way more than just a physical act. It's
crucial for the health of your emotional connection, too: It's something only
the two of you share; it makes you both feel warm and loved; it draws you back
together when you're drifting apart. And did I mention that it's a whole lot of
Striking up those sparks when you first meet is easy. Nurturing a strong,
steady flame? That's the hard part. When you've got a mortgage, a potbelly, and
a decade or two of togetherness under your belts, it can be hard to muster up
the fire you felt when you first got together. That's when it's even more
important to protect your sex life and make it a priority. "You have to
keep working to create allure and seduction for each other or your sex life
will become lackluster," Greer points out. "Who wants the same turkey
sandwich over and over? You want it on whole wheat! On toast! As turkey salad!
On a roll!" (And now I will imagine my husband covered with Russian
dressing. Thanks, Dr. Greer.)
As the years go by, you'll keep revisiting and realigning and reimagining the
passion you have for each other. And if you keep at it, you'll have a sex life
that transcends your marriage's lack of newness, the stresses of family and
work, the physical changes that come with aging. Now that's something
worth holding on to.