The Affair You Don't Know You're Having
Are you in an Emotional Affair? continued...
IT'S ABOUT TO GET PHYSICAL WHEN YOU...
- Find yourself feeling vulnerable and turn to the other man for support
rather than to your husband or a trusted relative or girlfriend.
- Accelerate the level of intimacy through sexual or suggestive talk over
e-mail or the phone.
- Put yourself in a situation where the two of you could be alone.
TO FORTIFY YOUR MARRIAGE...
- Stay honest with your husband. Share with him all your hopes, triumphs, and
failures — as well as your attractions and temptations, which will help keep
you from acting on them.
- Make time for just the two of you on a regular basis — away from the kids,
your friends, and family.
- Surround yourself with happily married friends who don't believe in fooling
around. Having positive, emotionally connected role models will help you stay
"READERS REVEAL I KNEW I'D GONE TOO FAR WHEN. . ."
"The guy who I was flirting with regularly over e-mail attended the same
event as me and my fiancé. When I introduced them, my face flushed as red as a
tomato — I felt embarrassed and guilty about my fiancé meeting this guy, so I
knew what I was doing was wrong." — Carolyn, 31, Westfield, NJ
"One drunken night, my best guy friend and I confessed we had always
liked each other. He was a perfect gentleman and left my place before we
crossed the physical line. The next day I was completely embarrassed and knew
that I didn't want to jeopardize the relationship with my boyfriend so I ended
the friendship. And now the boyfriend is my husband, so I'm glad I did." —
Allie, 29, Yonkers, NY
"The cute tech guy who I'd been flirting with at my office said to me,
'You're not going to invite me in?' after I accepted a ride home from him. I
liked the attention of him buying me vending machine snacks and complimenting
me, but my husband would've had a holy heart attack if he knew." — Amy,
"My best guy friend and I were snuggled on his couch underneath a
blanket when I realized that neither his girlfriend nor my boyfriend would be
happy if they saw us — and that our platonic relationship wasn't as platonic as
we thought." — Kim, 35, New Orleans
*Names have been changed.
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