If Jennifer Aniston can't get her guy to commit, is there hope for the rest
Men who won't commit. Men who won't call. They'll all be players in He's
Just Not That Into You, a star-studded new movie based on the popular book
of the same name. The movie, which features Aniston, Ben Affleck, Drew
Barrymore, and Scarlett Johansson, opens nationally on Feb. 6 and will likely
spur a revival of the catchphrase made popular by an episode of Sex and the
City, as well as promote discussion on the self-protecting myths that women
create about men and dating.
By Sarah MahoneySurprising new marriage rules to help you get closer — or even fall in love
By the time we reach our 15th wedding anniversaries, most of us know how to
handle the ups and downs of marriage. Sure, the wedding china may have a few
chips, and perhaps we've had one too many spats about who forgot to bring home
the milk. But we've also learned to negotiate holidays with the in-laws,
wrangle tantrum-throwing kids, and talk each other through blown transmissions
and career crossroads...
Co-author and former Sex and the City writer Greg Behrendt is also
spreading his wisdom on Greg Behrendt's Wake-up Call, a new series on
the Soapnet network, in which he tackles relationship issues one couple at a
The bottom line: Men are not complicated and there are no mixed messages. If
he doesn't ask you out, call you soon after a date, or want to come inside with
you after a date, then he's just not that into you.
The Truth Shall Set You Free?
"Coming up with reasons that he might not have called that are not
critical of you is a natural defense mechanism," says New York City
psychoanalyst Gail Saltz, MD, author of Becoming Real: Defeating the
Stories We Tell Ourselves That Hold Us Back. "Hearing the words 'he's
not that into you' are painful because it's like 'what's wrong with me?'"
she says. But, Saltz notes, it's not always that simple.
"Sometimes there is something going on that is not about you," she
says. "The possibilities are endless and this book is popular because
usually we don't like to talk about the possibility that you are not the
Such excuses and defenses serve a positive and a negative function, says
Saltz. "They can keep us from being overwhelmed by negative emotions, but
if you are always in denial and your head is in the sand, that's not useful
either because it keeps you holding onto a relationship where there is
none," she tells WebMD.