How Do You Find Time to Do "It"
How do you sneak around your kids and find time to be intimate? Here's what some Redbook readers shared with us.
"I tell my kids, a locked door in the morning means Mom and Dad are having time together. And sometimes my husband and I schedule to take time off when the kids are at school just to share some special moments; then we really steam things up!" — A.L., 46, Columbus, NJ
"When my son was young, he hated naps, so we'd let him play in his room while Mom and Dad 'took a nap.' He never knew what we really did." — J.Y., 53, Sodus, NY
"My husband and I set our alarm early and make love before we go to work. It really gets us going and makes me amazingly alert for my day!" — S.L., 33, Freedom, PA
"We have a 'nooner' when the kids are in school!" — F.K., 38, Solon, OH
"We get intimate late at night or early in the morning, or we squeeze in sex when the kids are at friends' houses for playdates or sleepovers — then we can have more fun and get it on in the kitchen or other places outside of the bedroom!" — L.K., 46, Columbus, NJ
"My kids are 18, 10, and 3, and it seems like that 3-year-old thwarts us on almost every attempt to share alone time; I swear he senses the pheromones and wakes up! Now we ask one of the older children to take the little guy into their room to play or have the teenager take everyone to the playground so we can have some time to ourselves." — N.W., 33, Flint, MI
"The kids know that when my hubby comes home from work, it's our time to reconnect. We take 10 to 20 minutes, head to the bedroom, lock the door, and 'reconnect.' The kids never truly know what's going on." — E.N., 33, Bakersfield, CA
"I'm a mother of three, ages 19, 17, and 10. When the kids were growing up, my husband and I came up with a code sentence to use in front of the kids: When one of us was in the mood, we'd say to the other, 'Do you want to go read our books for a while?' Funny thing is, we actually would go read for a while, but then the kids, not wanting to read with us, would stop bothering us and we could get to business!" — Y.L., 45, Chico, CA
"When our kids were young, we had an attic in our house with a pull-down staircase, and if we had the urge to be alone for a while, we went up there and pulled the stairs up. My husband fixed the room up nicely with a rug, a couple of pillows, and a blanket for comfort. The kids never suspected what we were up to!" — B.T., 54, Miles City, MT
"We put the kids to bed early, then head to our room. To get out of mom mode (and surprise my man!), I wear sexy lingerie under my pj's, and then we get it on." — W.A., 38, New York City