What's So Great About Kissing?
A serious, tongue-tangling kiss triggers a whole spectrum of physiological processes that can boost your immunity and generally spruce up that body you work so hard to keep attractive.
Kissing as Meditation
Tension relief -- that's what good lovin' brings, says
Stamford. "Sex and love are probably the Rodney Dangerfield of stress
management. Because of all the negative energy we take in during the day, it's
a very positive benefit."
All in all, kissing and everything it engenders keeps us going
strong, living long, says Stamford. "The process of being active -- and
that can include kissing, sex, and any other whole-body activities -- that's
what keeps you healthy."
Sex, sensuality, and sensual touch have profound effects on
well-being, says Joy Davidson, PhD, psychologist and clinical sexologist in
Seattle, and former columnist for an online column called
"Kissing is an exciting excursion into the sensual,"
Davidson tells WebMD. "If we happen to be connecting with someone we care
about, it produces a sense of well-being and a kind of full-bodied
Kissing is also "a sensual meditation," she says.
"It stops the buzz in your mind, it quells anxiety, and it heightens the
experience of being present in the moment. It actually produces a lot of the
physiological changes that meditation produces."
And while kissing may be nature's way of "opening the door
to the sexual experience," she says, "it also has all that lusciousness
that we need to pull us out of the mundane and the ordinary and take us into
moments of the extraordinary."
Birds, Bees, and More
Birds do it -- tap their bills together, that is.
"We don't know if bees do it," says Helen Fisher, PhD,
professor of anthropology at Rutgers University in Newark, N.J., and author of
several books, including The Sex Contract and Anatomy of Love.
Romantic love is her research specialty.
"All kinds of animals kiss," says Fisher. "Insects
will stroke each other with a leg, or stroke another's abdomen. Even turtles,
moles, and cats rub noses. Dogs lick each other's faces. Elephants put their
trunks in another elephant's mouth."
When chimpanzees kiss, "it's with a deep French kiss,"
she says. "They do it for all kinds of reasons -- there's social kissing,
kissing to relieve tension, to express friendship, to make up after an
argument. Two males will kiss, two females will kiss, a mother and child will
kiss on the lips. They don't choose mates; it's whomever they're interacting