New Spin on Sex Ed -- Booty Camp!
Booty camps get couples to refocus on sex and their loving relationship.
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And "we are starting a program at the Berman Center in
November that offers getaway weekend retreats and ongoing couples intimacy
enhancement sessions on rolling basis," she says, meaning that couples can
come every night or once a week.
Pepper Schwartz, PhD, professor of sociology at the University
of Washington in Seattle and author of several books including The Great Sex
Weekend, offers retreats for couples who are "doing well and want to do
better, but are not having dire emotional difficulty."
She offers such getaways at resorts in Bermuda. "You go and
stay in a beautiful place for a couple of days or weeks to concentrate on each
other, get your act together and reacquaint yourselves with your bodies, talk
about feelings and communicate your preferences and fantasies in a safe
environment," Schwartz tells WebMD.
Los Angeles, Calif.-based sexologist Ava Cadell, author of
12 Steps to Everlasting Love, runs a boot camp for couples before they
get married. And she plans to open up another in Hawaii in the next year.
"Not only do I teach couples how to communicate positively
and fight fairly, but how to have the very best love life they can possibly
have where both partners get their needs met and learn how to communicate their
sexual wants, needs, desires, fantasies, and fears," she says.
"We take a driving test, and I think we should take
marriage test," she tells WebMD.
That said, "It's never to late to learn as long as both
have the desire," she says. To that end, Cadell offers an
audiotape/workbook program for couples who have problems, called Passion
Do Your Homework
When a couple is interested in attending a program, "you
have to research carefully and get as much information about it as
possible," she says."There are good, bad and indifferent courses,"
she says. "Maybe even get referrals and view videos or read books to get as
much information as you can."
Important questions to ask:
- What are the benefits?
- Is there a money-back guarantee?
- Is there nudity?
- How many people will be in the group?
- How much interaction is there with other couples or instructors?
No program is right for every couple, she says. "Some
couples may not want to be part of a big group and other people get motivated
by a big group," she says.
New York City-based sex therapist Ruth Westheimer, PhD, author
of several books including Sex For Dummies and Conquering the Rapids
of Life: Making the Most of Midlife Opportunities, has been advising
Americans on bedroom matters for decades.
But as for booty camps: "Just to have couples come to camp
seems problematic if no one has had a conversation with them to know what the
reality of their lives is about," says Westheimer, popularly known as Dr.