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Not Tonight, Honey

What to say to him:

"From now on, you can count on me to be in the mood every Wednesday morning. I'm sorry if it seems mechanical to schedule lovemaking this way, but I want to be sure we create time for us."

And that's probably the most important message of all. "Sex isn't really so much about sex as it is about being intimately connected to each other," says McCarthy. "The most important thing a couple can do is break the cycle of avoidance and tell each other they want that connection."

Fusion

last night i didn't want to.
too tired,
things on my mind,
worries,
so much to do.

you said we had a date.
true enough.
(guilt!)
you didn't look turned on...
and i, already in my pj's,
night cream applied...

but...well...
we should...
oh, ok, i'll just take my bottoms off.

then it happened,
again.
how could i have forgotten?

you captured my eyes first.
i reached out for your body.
my top flew off because it had to.
i let go because
there was nothing else to do.
i invited you in because you belonged there.

we swirled into that familiar vortex.

later, i lay in your delicious aura,
musing once again
at my impossible, inexplicable inability
to remember

the joy,
the heat,
the satisfaction,
the peace,
of fusion.

"remind me," i demanded,
"to never forget this again."

"ok,"
you answered indulgently,
knowing that i would.

-by Lana Holstein, M.D.

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