Sept. 13, 2001 -- You're at the dentist's office, white-knuckling the reclining chair. As a bright light assails your eyes, you focus on the approach of that awful wailing drill and on the shrill sound of metal meeting tooth enamel. You shrink back in anticipation. Your face tightens with dread. Then something reminds you of last weekend's romantic getaway. Perhaps it's the floral painting on the wall, recalling the rose-patterned bedspread in the room where you stayed. Perhaps it's that love song playing on the radio -- the song you danced to. Your grip loosens, your grimace slackens, and your mind wanders. And when the dentist announces, "You're done," you suddenly realize it didn't hurt as much as you thought it would.
Does using fantasy to outwit pain and fear sound far-fetched? It's not, claims a study presented at the annual meeting of the American Pain Society in October 1999. A research team from Johns Hopkins and other universities found that people who fantasized about a highly pleasurable sexual scenario experienced the least pain.
By Keith Ablow, M.D.
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For years, people have used imagery, such as visualizing the beach or other favorite places, to reduce their perception of pain during dental or medical procedures. The new sexual fantasy research suggests yet another option for nondrug pain relief.
Feel Your Pain
In the 1999 study, researchers asked 40 college students to submerge their hands in a tank of ice water and then rate their pain on a scale of 0 to 10. Researchers measured how long it took for the students to first feel pain and how long they could stand to keep their hands in the icy tank.
The subjects were then divided into four groups, and each person was asked to immerse one hand again. During this dunking, the control group was told not to use any imagery or self-distractions that would interfere with their ability to detect pain. The second group visualized a neutral scene, such as people walking. The third group thought about a sexual fantasy that each had rated as minimal in terms of pleasure or enjoyment. The fourth group focused on sexual fantasies that gave them maximal pleasure and enjoyment.
Those who had visualized highly pleasurable sexual fantasies reported significantly less pain than they experienced during their first dunking and also less pain than all of the other groups. They also were better able to tolerate the pain and kept their hands in the ice water longer. Researchers found that the highly pleasurable fantasies improved mood, reduced worry and tension, and increased the subjects' belief that they could deal with the pain.