Are relationship lulls fact or fiction?
Some married couples don't get itchy. "Our relationship has only gotten
better over the years," says Jeanne Gribbin of Reno, Nev., married 17
years. She and her spouse follow Barbach's golden rule: Give the marriage
"People say marriage takes work, but I prefer to use the word
attention," Barbach says. "Consult your partner before making plans or
decisions, and if you both do that, you'll find you both get to do more of your
own things. Set aside time to talk on a daily basis, even if it's just 20
minutes. Take time to get dressed up and go out on dates. If a marriage
succumbs to the seven year itch, it's most likely because the couple turned a
blind eye to their problems instead of solving them."
Elaine Marshall is a freelance writer living in Reno, Nev. She also reports
for Time magazine and teaches at the Reynolds School of Journalism at
the University of Nevada, Reno.