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Unwanted Abstinence

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July 27, 2001 -- On TV, everyone who wants a sex life gets one. That's not the way it works in real life. And results from a new survey show that people who want sex -- but don't get it -- suffer in lonely silence.

"Many of these people are in their 20s and 30s but haven't ever had the experience of kissing or touching, much less intercourse," Elisabeth O. Burgess, PhD, tells WebMD. "So they feel awkward not knowing how to make the right move. It seems to them that they have a big sign on their heads that says "INEXPERIENCED."

Burgess is a sociologist at Georgia State University, in Atlanta. Her colleague Denise Donnelly, PhD, began the study after her earlier work on the subject drew the attention of an internet chat room for involuntary celibates -- people who want sex but can't find a partner. This contact revealed to the researchers a hidden world of hurt.

Via Internet questionnaires, they interviewed 60 men and 22 women whose sex lives either never began or had stalled for at least six months. Their findings, published in the current issue of the Journal of Sex Research, showed that these people often experience despair, depression, frustration, and a loss of confidence that spills over into all aspects of their lives.

"For these people, not being sexually active isn't just about the sex but about being connected to other people," Burgess says. "It's about the need for intimacy. They feel left out of normal relationships. And they think they are the only person experiencing this problem."

Since publishing this initial study, Donnelly and Burgess have gone on to interview some 300 people sharing various versions of this problem. Some are virgins. Some are single people who haven't dated in a long time. And some are married or in a committed relationship but have stopped having sex.

The study found that the virgins and singles had a lot in common. They typically reported being shy, and were likely to have put off dating and sex to concentrate on their education and careers.

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