Married With Kids: Is Libido Lower for Women?
Study Shows Women With Young Kids Are Most Likely to Report Lower Sex Drive
WebMD News Archive
Sept. 28, 2005 -- Married women are more likely to have sexual desire problems than either single women or married men, and those with children under the age of 5 are the most likely to report having little interest in sex, a new study shows.
Researchers in the U.K. surveyed 11,000 men and women between the ages of 16 and 44 about their sex lives -- or lack thereof.
They found that the women were significantly more likely than men to say that they had experienced a short-term or long-term problem in their sex lives over the past year.
Forty-one percent of married women said they had little interest in sex for up to a month during the previous year; one in 10 reported sexual desire problems lasting at least six months.
"Women with small children were the most likely to report short-term and long-term problems with desire," researcher Catherine H. Mercer, MSc, PhD, tells WebMD. "But interestingly, this was not the case among married men."
In fact, married men and men living with a partner were much less likely to report sexual problems than single men.
Men and women who reported having negative feelings about their first sexual encounter also reported more current problems with their sex lives. It was not clear from the study if the two are related.
The survey was conducted between 1999 and 2001 and is published in the latest issue of the journal Sexually Transmitted Infection.
In addition to low libido, those surveyed were asked about other common sexual issues including performance anxiety, inability to climax, early climax, pain during intercourse, erection problems, and lubrication problems.
Both men and women reported more long-term sexual problems as they got older. People who reported being in good health also reported fewer sexual problems than those in poor health.
And both men and women who reported having problems communicating with their partner about sex were twice as likely to report sexual problems as those who did not cite communication as a problem.
"Communication plays a big part in sexual satisfaction," Mercer says.
Just Too Tired
The big difference in sexual desire reported by the men and women and women in their 20s, 30s and early 40s comes as no surprise to sexual medicine specialist David Goldmeier, MD. Goldmeier co-authored an editorial accompanying the study.
"A woman who has small kids and a husband to take care of and maybe a job outside the home on top of that is going to be exhausted at the end of the day," he tells WebMD. "The last thing she wants to think about is sex. Her husband may be tired too, but he has about 10 times the testosterone that she has. So he is thinking about it."