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    Gut Feelings Might Be Best Predictors of Marital Bliss

    Study found newlyweds' semi-conscious attitudes determined future bliss more than conscious thoughts

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    By Kathleen Doheny

    HealthDay Reporter

    THURSDAY, Nov. 28 (HealthDay News) -- If you are in the midst of planning the perfect wedding to the partner of your dreams and you suddenly get a bad feeling in your gut, new research on newlyweds suggests you would be wise to heed that instinct.

    "The conscious attitude doesn't really predict what happens to the relationship over time," said study author Jim McNulty, a professor of psychology at Florida State University.

    Rather, it was what McNulty called "semi-conscious" attitudes -- those gut feelings that many chose to ignore -- that determined how happy couples were years after they had exchanged their vows.

    The finding is published in the Nov. 29 issue of the journal Science.

    McNulty and his team followed 135 newlywed couples for four years. Every six months, the researchers measured the couples' conscious attitudes toward their relationship, asking them to evaluate their marriage by using adjectives such as "good," "satisfying," "bad" or "dissatisfied."

    They also measured what psychologists call "automatic attitude." To do this, McNulty said, the men and women sat in front of a computer. On the screen flashed either a positive or a negative word, such as "awesome" or "awful." They hit one key to denote it was a positive word and another key for negative.

    "Right before they saw the word, we would flash a picture of their partner for a third of a second," McNulty said. "When people see a picture of their partner, it activates that automatic attitude." Someone who's positive toward their partner, he said, will be quicker to hit the positive key and slower to hit the negative key.

    The technique has been validated in previous research on prejudice and stereotyping, he noted.

    "These automatic, gut-level, immediate reactions might be unrelated to what they consciously think when they evaluated their partners," McNulty said.

    In following the couples, however, the semi-conscious attitudes predicted long-term happiness.

    Overall, those who took longer to respond to positive words after seeing their partner's photo were less happy after four years than those who responded more quickly to positive words.

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