Eat, Exercise, Relax, and Sleep Your Way to Better Sex
Better sex doesn't just involve technique. Keeping a fit mind and body can increase your enjoyment of bedroom antics.
It is in the mind that people feel self-confident when they
like the effects of exercise on their bodies. It is also where they feel happy
and energized once they've gotten enough sleep.
Yet the inner workings of the brain can also keep a person from
focusing on the delights of bedroom actions.
"In order to have a really healthy and pleasurable sex
life, you have to be able to dismiss work; you have to be able to unwind and
experience pleasure," says Zager. She says this means being able to
temporarily forget about what your boss said, what was in the memo, what bills
need to be paid, and what the children need.
Sex requires relaxation and time, adds Zager, noting that some
couples may be too stressed and busy to enjoy or even have intercourse. She
suggests setting priorities.
"Just how important is sex to you and your partner?"
asks Zager. If it is vital to your relationship, she advises finding a way to
work it into your schedule and working on making yourself less stressed or
Some recommendations include eliminating some activities from
your busy life, delegating jobs to someone else (by giving it to a partner, or
hiring someone to do it), and doing an across-the-board cut in time spent on
To unwind, Zager suggests taking 5 to 30 minutes either to
walk, meditate, take a hot bath, do yoga, or sit by yourself. This time can
help charge personal batteries and can help make transitions between your work,
family, and sex life.
To Your Bedroom Health
Living healthy may, indeed, have its benefits. If you eat a
balanced diet, exercise regularly, sleep enough, and take time to relax,
there's a good chance your life between the sheets will improve.
Of course, there is no guarantee. But, as Zager says, it all
forms a really good foundation.
"If you've got a good foundation of stress management, and
setting your priorities, and taking good care of yourself, then on top of that,
you can build relationships with other people and an enjoyable sex life,"