How to Get Your Sexy Back
Sexiness isn't something you just turn on and off. You have to cultivate it, get in touch with your body. Once you tap in to your sensuality, a great sex life -- and a positive new outlook -- are just around the corner.
13. Look in the mirror. From the onset of puberty, we're taught to
scrutinize every imperfection of our bodies. Instead, give yourself a
reaffirming reality check by doing the opposite. Stand naked in front of a
full-length mirror and focus on the things you really love about yourself: your
strong thighs, shiny hair, or full, sexy chest.
14. Turn off the iPhone. And the TV. And your laptop. Life's
distractions keep you from being fully in touch with yourself, never mind
anyone else, Brizendine says. Unplug for a few minutes each day so you can plug
in to what's important: you. Focus on just one activity — reading a book or
having a snack. Tuning out from the world helps make you a priority, which in
turn reminds you just how lovable you are.
15. Move your hips. Not a good dancer? Fake it! Turn on your favorite
tunes and just let go. "When you move your entire body to a beat, you start to
love how it feels and embrace what your body can do," says Vanessa Isaac, the
creator of Hip Brazil Dance and Fitness. "Awakening your inner rhythm awakens
16. Create a kid-free zone. Nothing kills sensuality like a room full
of Tinker Toys, diaper bags, and crayon-drawn art. Have a space in your house
that's adult-only so you can focus on yourself. "For us, that's the bedroom,"
says Erica Smith, a San Francisco mom of two. "It has nothing kid-oriented in
it. No toys, no pictures of their adorable faces. It's an environment for us as
lovers, instead of Mom and Dad."
17. Change it up. Take an art class. Or book a last-minute weekend
getaway. "Novelty is the greatest aphrodisiac," Gardos says. Switch up your
routine to create spontaneity. "When you do something out of the ordinary,
you're taking yourself off of autopilot, which creates excitement in your
life," he says. "Excitement is always sexy."
18. Hit the spa. Get a manicure, pedicure, or bikini wax (or all
three if you've got the time and money). "If I go for too long without these
minor beauty treatments, I can literally feel my sexiness waning," says
Kimberly Elloie, from Atlanta. Taking care of yourself boosts your confidence —
plus, having someone pamper you and make you feel pretty can remind you that,
heck yeah, you're worth it, hot mama.