The Martha Stewart Show often takes a personal turn -- but never
quite so personal as on December 17, 2007. That day, Stewart said farewell to
one of her show's most beloved recurring characters, her own mother, "Big
Martha Kostyra, who passed away on Nov. 16 at the age of 93 after suffering
earlier in the month, had appeared on more than 40 episodes, preparing her
famous pierogi, cheesecake, and meat loaf recipes, learning how to use a
computer, and demonstrating her exercise
routines. Each time, the merry, gentle interplay between Big Martha and her
daughter warmed the stage.
By Geneen Roth
Do you secretly believe it's selfish to put yourself ahead of others? If
so, you may never stop packing on pounds.
There are some things in life you take for granted: Your children will
outlive you. No matter how tough it gets, you won't poison your spouse with
arsenic-laced toothpaste. And if you have a best friend, you will attend her
But life sometimes upsets our most basic assumptions. And although I haven't
resorted to the arsenic (yet), I did have...
But on that December day, Stewart, wearing a simple brown ruffled blouse and
supported in the audience by a dozen or more family members, had to introduce a
tribute instead of show segments starring her mom. In typical Stewart fashion,
there were no tears or breakdowns -- just a few wistful smiles at fond memories
of Big Martha. But she stumbled on her words a few times, finding it hard to
talk of her mother in the past tense. "My mom is so modest -- was so
modest," she corrected herself.
A few days before the tribute aired, Stewart spoke with WebMD, and then,
too, had difficulty putting her loss into words. "It's just -- make the
most of every day. What else can you say?" she said. "Time sometimes
runs out, and you don't realize how precious it is."
The year 2007 was a rough one for Stewart -- although perhaps not as rough
as 2004, the annus horribilis when she spent five weeks on trial for charges
related to insider trading and then began a five-month term at Alderson Federal
Prison Camp in West Virginia. Still, in addition to losing her mom last year,
she faced health challenges of her own: Progressive damage from torn cartilage
led Stewart to seek hip replacement surgery in June. Fortunately, Stewart had
already begun laying the groundwork for a major new focus of her powerful
podium: not just gracious living, but healthy living, with a special emphasis
on health care needs as we age. Her personal experience over the past year
highlights just how important that is.