T. Berry Brazelton Pediatrician: How do I know when I'm spoiling my child? I think spoiled children are anxious children, they're anxious for somebody to say NO. Stop. This is where you stop or looking for even discipline. And discipline is the second most important thing you give a child. Love comes first. But discipline comes very close on its heels. And so I think if you have a child who's really teasing and driving everybody crazy around them and other kids don't really like them. I'd think of that. Maybe this child is trying to ask for some limits.