Sexual meditation can be performed solo or with a partner and with a guide or without one. It centers around the practice of mindfulness. With this technique you focus on the present moment, experiencing thoughts, feelings, and sensations without judging or labeling them.
In sexual meditation, you focus on sensuality and the current state of your body. Your goal is to let go of distractions and concentrate on touch and sensation. If you’re practicing sexual meditation with a partner, there’s an added goal: to heighten the link between you and become more aware of both your own body and your partner’s.
Sexual meditation can end in intercourse or masturbation to orgasm, but this doesn’t have to happen.
There’s some natural overlap between mindfulness and sex. Both encourage focusing on the present moment and releasing thoughts of outside responsibilities. Both can relieve stress, and both involve deep breathing.
Perhaps because of this connection, a study on mindfulness training demonstrated its potential as an aid to women with sexual problems. The training was aimed at helping them relax, avoid negative self-judgment, be present in the moment, and notice bodily sensation and change.
Another study on the relationship between mindfulness and sexuality included both men and women. It found that mindfulness had a positive link with sexual motivation and sexual awareness.”
What’s the Difference Between Sexual Meditation, Tantric Meditation, and Orgasmic Meditation?
Sexual meditation is a broad term that includes orgasmic meditation and overlaps with tantric meditation.
Sexual meditation versus tantric meditation
Tantra is a philosophy and set of practices that emerged in India around the sixth century. It includes the assertion that everything is sacred, including sex, and centers on awakening consciousness and liberating energy. Not all sexual meditation is tantric, and not all tantric meditation is sexual.
Sexual meditation versus orgasmic meditation
Orgasmic meditation (sometimes called OM) is a recent cultural trend that began in San Francisco in the early 21st century but has since developed several outposts. It involves a 15-minute clitoral massage.
How to Explore Sexual Meditation
Sexual meditation can be practiced without training or a guide. Like many mindfulness practices, sexual meditation requires only that you take a break from the bustle of daily life and focus on your body, bringing awareness to each part in turn.
If you want more direction, many studios and therapists offer suggested meditations, including sexual meditations, online. In general, a short summary will focus you on specific sensations or questions, giving you a suggested timeline.
But many people find it hard to meditate on their own, and sexual meditation is no different. It’s easy to get distracted or frustrated. There are many guided meditations available, both for free and for purchase. You can also find material specific to couples or to solo exploration. In addition, there are podcasts and apps that cover sexual meditation.
