Does your husband complain that you never listen? Does your wife say she feels like you’re just one more child in the house? Have your friends lost patience with your chronic lateness?
Adult attention deficit hyperactivity disorder could be to blame. Although ADHD is thought of as a childhood problem, experts believe it can linger into adulthood in the majority of cases diagnosed in children. And if you don’t know you have the condition, it could be wreaking havoc on your relationships.
It's not surprising that anyone living with ADHD might also experience excessive levels of stress. ADHD symptoms, such as trouble focusing, short attention span, hyperactivity, and poor organizational skills can lead to frustration and feelings of loss of control and hopelessness – a sure set-up for daily stress. ADHD may also be accompanied by other mental health conditions -- conditions that are also linked to stress including:
Are these conditions secondary to ADHD or themselves causes of stress? No one knows for sure, but it's important to address stress, in addition to your ADHD.
Why Worry About ADHD and Stress?
Everyone feels stress. Stress helps you focus on something that requires your attention -- and that's good. It can make you work harder and react quicker. Otherwise, you might stumble into something dangerous.
Stress becomes bad when it overwhelms your ability to act. When stress levels remain high for long periods, problems like depression and heart disease can result.
So what's the connection between stress and ADHD? ADHD presents ongoing challenges that can make stress and frustration become out of control. If you have ADHD and a lot of unmanaged stress, it could raise your risk of some health problems and worsen symptoms of others, including:
Anyone with ADHD -- children, teens, and adults -- can do a lot to manage ADHD and reduce stress. These strategies can be adapted for any age and include the following suggestions:
Follow through on your ADHD treatment plan
Follow through on the ADHD treatment plan,whether it's medication and/or behavior therapy. Talk to your doctor before making any changes to your treatment plan.
Learn stress management skills
You can learn skills to deal more effectively or minimize stress. Here are some areas to consider:
Strategies for dealing with or avoiding stressful situations
Developing more effective problem-solving skills
Improving communication skills
Learning to speak up for yourself and your needs (self-advocacy)
Develop relaxation techniques
Learn techniques for meditation or relaxation. Biofeedback may also be useful to help monitor your level of stress and how you respond to it.
Remove stressors when appropriate
Some stressors can simply be removed or avoided altogether. For example, for a child with ADHD, you may want to schedule play dates with only one other child and monitor the play closely. A teen or adult may want to cut back on extra activities during stressful times.