Admit It, Men: You’re Stressed
How you can recognize and relieve stress
How men can prevent stress continued...
"Men are taught to act as if we can control the impossible on a daily
basis," Real says, quoting such chestnuts as "I don't care about your effort, I
care about results" and "You're going to deliver and if you can't, I'll find
someone who can!"
"We are taught to accept responsibility for things we don't have control
over," says Real. "Usually we get bent out of shape with what we can't change
and get so involved with that, we fail to step up to the plate and do the
things we can. Procrastination is the most naked form of that."
Three easy steps to reducing stress
If it's too late to prevent stress, Hallowell has three simple steps you can
take to help relieve stress. "Lead what I call a connected life," he says, "not
electronically connected, but interpersonally connected, where you have friends
you rely on and talk with. Get physical
exercise, a major stress reducer. And get enough sleep. Those three
steps, which anybody can do, will make a big difference."
What about men who say they don't have time to relax or exercise? Hallowell
has heard it before. "Most people are much more aware of how they spend their
money than their time," he says. "Most people waste at least three hours a week
in what I call 'screen sucking' - mindless emailing, IMing, and surfing the
net. If you just cut that out, there's a workout for you and a lunch
with a friend. If you include the time spent watching television, it probably
adds another eight to ten hours."
So stop reading this, get up, and go relax.