Boring Bedroom Syndrome — It's Everywhere
By Julia A. Savacool
Our prescription: Try some of these passion boosters, and thank us in the morning.
Not to be nosy, but how's your love life? For those not newly wed, possible answers to that question might range from the noninformative "Fine, thanks" to the slightly weary "Okay, considering..." to the ever-popular "None of your business." But what if we told you that a few easy changes could make your sex life more electric — wouldn't you be interested?
Well, listen up. It's entirely possible to put the good lovin' back into your partnership. All you need is the inside scoop on secrets that researchers are uncovering — real, people-tested truths about what keeps a couple's physical connection charged. So go ahead, sneak a peek. We promise, your marriage will be glad you did.
Wear His Cologne
Yup, most women need a longer sexual warm-up than men do. But rather than wait for the ideal time, when all the kids are at sleepovers, why not get yourself in the right mind-set before you see your husband? Your trick: Dab a little of his favorite scent behind your ears and just beneath your nose before you leave for work. The scent of a man's cologne significantly increases a woman's arousal, say researchers at the Kinsey Institute for Research in Sex, Gender and Reproduction. "It's not as if sniffing your husband's cologne will magically make you passionate," cautions Cynthia Graham, Ph.D., one of the researchers. "But it certainly helps put you in the mood."
Go for a Bike Ride
Who knew? Bicycling can be good for your sex life. A study released by the American Heart Association found that men with a heart condition who regularly do some exercise, including cycling, are better able to perform in the bedroom, due to increased blood flow throughout the body's arteries and vessels, including those that lead to the genitals. Women may reap the same benefits as men, so why not schedule a little cycling expedition this weekend?
Be aware, though, that there's controversy about how bike riding can affect men. Some research shows that pressure from the seat can cause impotence, most notably among serious cyclists. "Specially designed seats may solve that problem but can create others," says Gerald Weeks, Ph.D., professor and chair, department of counseling, University of Nevada, Las Vegas. Some experts contend, though, that the typical weekend biker isn't really affected by the seat and that the benefits to the circulatory system outweigh possible risks.