Boring Bedroom Syndrome — It's Everywhere
Take Care of Your Health
For the same reason that exercise can be a bonus to your love life, any
activity that decreases blood circulation is a passion killer, says Annette
Owens, Ph.D., M.D., a certified sex counselor in Charlottesville, Virginia, and
cofounder of the Sexual Health Network. Smoking, consuming alcohol, eating a
high-fat diet, and living a couch-potato existence all hamper your body's blood
flow, making it tougher for you to feel aroused. Committing to a healthier
lifestyle is an essential part of stepping up your sexual heat.
Check Your Meds
How's this for irony: The medications you and your partner may be taking to
stay healthy could be pulling the plug on your physical connection. So many
pills have passion-dulling side effects, says Dr. Owens, that "the very
first question I ask my patients is what medications they're on." The
biggest offenders are blood pressure drugs and antidepressants, but there are
hundreds of others. In fact, Sexual Pharmacology, the standard
reference book on medication-related sexual problems, is 589 pages long!
Oral contraceptives can also cause problems. "Many women report that the
Pill diminishes their desire," says Dr. Owens. She adds that even drugs
that seem innocuous, such as over-the-counter allergy treatments, can get in
the way when taken over long periods. The bottom line: If you've recently begun
a medication program and have found that your interest in romance has dropped,
talk to your physician about damage control.
Don't Forget to Brush!
Your husband has seen you in sickness and in health, but that doesn't mean
he has stopped noticing little things like oral hygiene. "We just concluded
a study in which we asked men and women who were in long-term relationships —
mostly married couples — whether the 'taste' of their partner's kiss influenced
their interest in intimacy, and if so, what taste was best," says Alan
Hirsch, M.D., neurological director of The Smell & Taste Treatment and
Research Foundation, in Chicago. Both sexes agreed: "Women said minty, and
men said spearmint and peppermint were tastes that turned them on."
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