Cynthia Nixon on Love, Sex, and Women's Health
The Sex and the City star talks about playing Miranda, her battle with breast cancer, her fabulous 40s, and her next role.
Have Sex Like Miranda continued...
But today, Nixon says, Miranda is much softer, and by the end of SATC, her sex life looked like it might be improving. So here are three tips Nixon says today's Miranda would offer in a conversation about sex:
- Be safe. Use a condom.
- Don't be shy. Follow your impulses.
- Be as present as possible, and if that scares the other person, get out of the bed.
Coincidentally, Nixon says she would also personally give this same advice. As for No. 3, Nixon says this applies to all parts of a relationship, not just in the bedroom. If you can't be yourself, she says, the relationship's not right. Get out.
What's Next for Cynthia Nixon?
The worldwide promotion for SATC2 will continue into the summer, but once that's over, life will return to a more relaxed pace for Nixon, her children, Samantha, 13, and Charles, 7, and Marinoni, 43, whom Nixon calls the kids' "other mom." (They have been engaged for a year -- Nixon shows off her ring -- and would like to get married, but New York has not legalized same-sex marriages.) The two occasionally weekend at their house on Long Island, but usually stay in the city, hitting a museum, going to the park, or hosting friends for a slumber party.
Nixon says she isn't sure what her next acting job will be. She has been offered roles in a number of plays, but either the timing of the production or the character she would play wasn't quite right. "I love working, but I was a child actor, and for the first 10 years of my career I was in school," she says. "So anytime I wouldn't get a job, I'd be disappointed, but I'd also think, 'Ahh, I'm not going to have to be in school and working.' There was always an upside to not getting the job. I still feel very much like that. If there's a wonderful job, that's great. But if not, and I'm home, that's great."
The actor often reflects on an article she read years ago in The New York Times Magazine about a ballerina she says was "of a certain age" with two children. "When she was young, it was all about pushing herself, rehearsing 12 hours a day, getting her leg higher and back straighter," Nixon says.
"At a certain point, she hit her peak and decided to completely shift her regimen because -- like the women [in SATC2] -- she was where she wanted to get to. Instead of trying to get her leg higher, she just needed to support it and cushion it and make it stay as long as it could. She was dancing to stay limber and for longevity."
Nixon, too, is beyond the pushing-it-to-the-limit phase of her life. She doesn't want to be more famous, more rich, or more skinny. "I have enough of those things," she says. "I could have more, but I have enough."