We may be loath to admit it, but most of us have at least one bad habit. And
while some bad habits -- such as smoking -- can pose serious health risks,
others like nail biting, throat clearing, and knuckle cracking are really just
plain irksome (for us and for the people that love us).
Odds are you have been biting your nails or cracking your knuckles for a
long time. So how can you be expected to break these bad habits now?
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Where there is a will, there is a way. No matter what your bad habit --
whether nail biting, knuckle cracking, cuticle picking, chronic coughing, or
throat clearing -- WebMD's cadre of experts have a simple three-step solution
that can be customized to whatever habit needs breaking.
"The more you do it, the more difficult it is to get rid if it, but
every single bad habit can be broken," says Patricia A. Farrell, PhD, a
clinical psychologist in Englewood, N.J. and author of How to Be your Own
Step No.1: Make It Conscious
The first step is to figure out when -- and why -- you bite your nails,
crack your knuckles, or engage in any other bad habit. "If you can notice
when you are doing it and under what circumstances and what feelings are
attached to it, you might be able to figure out why you are doing it and be
able to stop," says Susan Jaffe, MD, a psychiatrist in private practice in
New York City.
Step No. 2: Put It in Writing So It Really Sinks In
"Log it," says Janet L. Wolfe, PhD, a clinical psychologist in New
York City and author of several books including What to Do When He Has a
Headache. This will help you establish a baseline, she says. "Put down
the antecedents, the emotions surrounding the knuckle cracking and what goes
through your head when you crack your knuckles," she says. "This will
make your bad habit more conscious."
Wolfe suggests keeping the log for at least a week. The next step is to
analyze the data and look at what your usual triggers are. "Do you do it
when you are anxious or bored?"
James Claiborn, PhD, a psychologist in South Portland, Maine, and the
co-author of The Habit Change Workbook, agrees. "Write out a list of
the pros and cons of this behavior and keep a record of when you do it," he
tells WebMD. "Measurement of anything tends to change it and makes people
much more aware in the first place."
Step No. 3: Bait and Switch
Once you realize when and why you are biting your nails, cracking your
knuckles, or engaging in any other bad habit, the next logical step is to find
a not-quite-as-annoying temporary or permanent replacement for it.