You may have heard it on the news or morning talk shows: Have dinner
together as a family often. There’s even a national initiative, Family Day,
that reminds parents “what your kids really want at the dinner table is
Studies have found that kids who have frequent family dinners are less
likely to use alcohol, tobacco, or drugs.
By Gretchen Rubin
When our two daughters were little, they'd greet my husband and me with wild enthusiasm whenever we walked in the door, and they often cried miserably when we left. More recently, however, they had sometimes barely looked up from their games or homework or books when we walked in or out. It was a relief, in a way, but also a little sad. And too often, my husband and I didn't give warm greetings or farewells to the girls or to each other, either.
I had already made a long-standing...
But it’s not just about the food, say experts: it’s about the connection.
Whether you’re eating dinner, going for a nature walk, or holding a family
karaoke night, spending time together builds healthy families and healthy
“If you grew up in a healthy family that did these things, it makes
intuitive sense to you: this is what glues families together,” says Meg Cox,
author of The Book of New Family Traditions: How to Create Great Rituals for
Holidays & Everyday. “It’s about a sense of connection, of being loved,
a sense of identity and security that runs very deep.”
What family activities can you do with your kids to build those essential
connections? The sky’s the limit! To get started with some fun family
activities, try these tips from Cox and Lawrence Cohen, PhD, clinical
psychologist and author of Playful Parenting.
Family Fun With Food
Play “conversation in a jar" (or basket, or bin). Keep a
container on the dinner table with blank slips of paper, and whenever you think
of a cool question, write it down and toss it in. Some examples from Cox:
“What’s something you can do better than your parents?” “If there were a
holiday named after you, how would people celebrate it?” “Make up a nickname
for everyone at the table -- nothing mean!” Once a week, use some of the
questions in the basket to spark conversations at dinner.
Shake it up. Every so often, have a wacky family dinner night.
“Sometimes we’ll eat with the big serving utensils, use serving platters
instead of plates, and drink out of big pitchers instead of cups,” says Cohen.
Or you can put food coloring in everything and make goofy food. Or just serve
dinner as a picnic, on a blanket in the living room or playroom.