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    What Makes Wives Happy?

    Both New and Old Ideas of Marriage, Study Shows
    WebMD Health News
    Reviewed by Louise Chang, MD

    March 1, 2006 -- What do wives really want? A new study shows that for the typical American woman a happy marriage combines both modern and traditional ideas of partnership.

    In a survey of 5,000 married women, wives who felt that their husbands were emotionally engaged were the happiest in their marriages. But wives who worked outside the home were not as happy as wives who didn't.

    Far more than financial status or equal division of household chores, the single most important predictor of marital happiness among the women in the study was the level of their husbands' emotional engagement. Wives who shared the view that marriage is a lifelong commitment with their husbands were also happiest in their relationships.

    A more controversial finding was that women in the survey were happiest when their husbands were the main breadwinners for the family and when they did not work outside the home.

    Study co-author W. Bradford Wilcox, PhD, tells WebMD that this was true even for women who considered themselves progressive when it came to marriage roles.

    "Women who worked outside the home were able to spend less quality time with their husbands and that could certainly influence their perception of marital happiness," he says.

    He added that women who believe in the modern egalitarian idea of marriage may still find juggling a career, children, and a marriage to be tremendously stressful. Three-quarters of the women in the study had preschool aged or school-aged children.

    "I think the message here is that elements of the new and the old combine to form a happy marriage for women," he says. "The new is that men have to really step up emotionally in their marriages. At the same time, we find that wives appreciate some aspects of the old model, such as having a husband who is a good breadwinner."

    Traditional Roles

    Wilcox is a sociologist at the University of Virginia whose research focuses on "the influence of religious belief and practice on marriage, co-habitation, parenting, and fatherhood," according to his university biography.

    He has written extensively on the importance of the traditional mother-father family model for the welfare of children.

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