Taking Care of Yourself When You Have a Child With Physical, Emotional, or Behavioral Problems - Topic Overview
Being a parent of a child with physical, emotional, or behavioral
problems can be exhausting. Try to take good care of your physical and emotional health. Doing so
will help provide you with needed energy to care for your child with special
- Schedule time for yourself. Use a calendar or
planner to set aside specific times for buying and cooking
healthy foods, resting, visiting with friends, and doing other
things you enjoy. Don't be afraid to ask family members or friends for help. Take a break while your child uses community services (such as school programs, social skills training, job training, and counseling). Ask your doctor about other resources that can provide you with needed personal time.
- Learn ways to handle the normal range of
emotions, fears, and concerns that go along with raising a child with special
needs. Seek information about your child's condition so that you will know what
to expect. Use exercise, positive self-talk, relaxation, deep breathing, and other techniques to help you handle stress. Learn how to recognize when you need to
use them. For more information, see the topic Stress
- Find out whether there is a support group in your area
for parents of children with the same condition. Local and national groups can
help connect families and provide much-needed sources of information. It may help you to share your feelings with others or simply to find out how others have addressed common issues. It can be comforting to talk with other parents who also face the challenges and joys of raising a child with special needs.
- Seek and accept support from others. Don't wait for information
and assistance to come to you. Consider using respite care, which is a family
support service that provides a break for parents and siblings. Trained
staff can relieve family members from caregiving duties as needed. These
breaks can help families communicate in a less stressful context and allow
parents to focus complete attention on their other children for a while.
Allow yourself time to grieve if needed. You may feel a sense of loss about the dreams you had for your child. As you work through your grief, you will be better able to care for yourself and your family. Talk with your doctor or another health professional if you think you or
another family member may be
depressed or having other emotional difficulties.
- Be realistic. In raising any child, there are no guarantees for success. It is important to remember to do the best you can and to know that you can't control everything.
- Believe in yourself. When self-doubts creep into your thoughts, remember to focus on the many good things you do for yourself and your child. If you are having problems dealing with your feelings about your child's condition, talk with your doctor about whether counseling may be helpful.