Jennifer Lopez and Her New Leading Role to Help Kids
Working with Boys & Girls Clubs, the superstar and 'Idol' judge gives back to those who helped her as a teen.
How to Be an Adult Role Model
Adult role models are crucial to a child's emotional development and well-being. "We have the important task of teaching children to grow up to be good citizens of the world," says Bonnie Maslin, PhD, a psychologist and author of Picking Your Battles: Winning Strategies for Raising Well-Behaved Kids. "Life is a team sport, and you want them to be really good members of the team." Maslin offers a few tips for parents:
Be consistent. "You don't need to punch a time clock or be Mother Teresa, but children need a sense of rhythm and predictability. It gives them a feeling of calm and internal organization, which are at the core of personal success," says Maslin. Whether you promise a child an hour a week for a certain activity or your family three weekly dinners, make it a priority.
Apologize when you let them down. "There's no shame in saying you're sorry, and that teaches children they can discover a better way to approach something later," she says.
Teach them to reach out. "The best antidote to bullying is friendship," Maslin says. "Teach a child how to be a good friend and also how to extend helping hands to strangers."
Be an available source. "Let them talk about whatever they want with their friends. But make sure you are the one giving them the information about important subjects," she advises.
Don't just give respect -- ask for it. "Respect is a two-way street, and I think we lose track of that," says Maslin. "It's important to teach children that you are a person just as they are. Otherwise, life is like bumper cars, and we're just crashing into each other."
How JLo Keeps Her Glow
Lopez is famous for her glow (also the name of her signature perfume), but it's not all about access to the best makeup artists. "Beauty comes from inside," says Lopez. "It's been said many times, but I believe it's the truth." She offers tips for being your own radiant best:
Take time for yourself. "When you look good, you feel good. When you feel good, you are a better person and parent," Lopez says. Finding "me" time doesn't require a week at a spa. When Lopez has a moment, "I just breathe and clear my mind. Sometimes we just have to do nothing, just breathe."
Let whimsy be your stylist. "In terms of style, I encourage other women to first be comfortable but have fun," she says. "Life is meant to be fun!"
Surround yourself with people who make you laugh. "When I am with my girlfriends, sisters, and cousins, we just say and do ridiculous and silly things. We are Puerto Ricans with a lot of energy. Sometimes it gets loud!" Lopez says.