With a name like Love, how could you not be a hopeless
romantic? As a child, Jennifer Love Hewitt -- born a week after Valentine's Day
-- says she refused to believe that the day wasn't created just for her. But as
an adult who's been both lucky and unlucky in love, most of it on the front
page of the tabloids, the star and co-producer of the CBS series Ghost
Whisperer says she's traded in her rose-colored glasses for a more
clear-eyed look at modern
romance. It's a view she shares in her new book, The Day I Shot Cupid:
Hello, My Name Is Jennifer Love Hewitt and I'm a Love-aholic. Hewitt says
she envisioned the book as a "mate and a friend in the dating process, the good
angel on your shoulder."
Cupid covers everything from being comfortable going out
to eat solo, to recovering from a breakup, to what guys really think of our
butts (you'd be pleasantly surprised), to "vagazzling your vajayjay." (Yes, she
really did it.) What it's not, Hewitt says, is The Rules for the
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"I read The Rules and all those other dating books and
loved them, and I took little bits from each," she says. "But to remember 15
rules of what to say and what not to say, how to do it and how not to do it,
that doesn't work. Once you're in a relationship, you can't wake up every day
with a checklist of 15 things you have to do to make a man happy. Why are we
walking around with the checklists? They're allowed to read interesting
books, and we read How to Make Yourself Better So a Man Will Love
So although Cupid offers plenty of romantic and sexual advice (our
favorite: "Your body is a temple, not a 7-Eleven: You decide when it's open and
who gets to come in"), at its
heart, says Hewitt, it has one message: "You're great. You're fine. Believe
that the universe has something better for you and it will come to you. We're
all going to get the chance to have the great love of our life. I really
believe that. But you won't do it by spending time trying to change yourself
into someone you're not."