Worry and anxiety can develop after a major loss.
Anxiety is a general feeling of tenseness or
uneasiness. You may feel generally anxious (called free-floating anxiety).
Anxiety can cause physical symptoms, such as an upset stomach or a headache.
Anxiety can also cause you to act in ways that are unusual for you, such as
being more demanding, less patient, or more irritable.
Worries and anxiety can sometimes seem to take over your life, making
you feel like everything is falling apart at the same time. You may need to slow down
and take things one at a time. If you are feeling overwhelmed, ask for help
from someone you trust.
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Talking or writing about
the things that are bothering you. Even if you are not sure what is bothering
you, finding words for your feelings often helps you figure out what is causing
Taking charge of whatever you
can. Making plans to deal with your day-to-day activities and concerns helps
relieve the worry and anxiety that springs from a sense of insecurity. However,
resist the urge to make major life decisions when you are anxious or worried.
Allowing other people to do some things for
you that you would normally do yourself. This may be difficult. If worries and
concerns are interfering with your ability to take care of personal needs and
other responsibilities, ask for help from others. Allowing other people to help
you also helps them, because it gives them an opportunity to show their care
and concern for you.
Asking for comfort. You
may need companionship and help until you feel less anxious and worried. Ask
someone you trust to stay with you. This is not a sign of weakness—it is a sign
of your need for comfort.
If intense worries and high anxiety last longer than a few days, talk
with your health professional or a mental health professional. Counseling,
medication, or a combination of the two may help you manage anxiety that makes
it difficult for you to function.