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OAB and Your Relationships: Talking With Your Partner

What Should You Say About OAB?

You’ve figured out an appropriate time to talk to your partner. But what in the world are you going to say? It may be easier than you think.

  • Start the conversation slowly. If you’re discussing becoming sexually intimate, you might simply mention that you can sometimes have a bit of dribbling, and wait to see what your partner says in response.
  • Explain OAB to your partner. Come armed with information -- the National Association for Continence (NAFC) is a good source. Let your partner know that OAB is not just an older women’s problem -- millions of women and men of all ages have it.
  • Tell your partner what overactive bladder treatment your are trying, whether it’s behavioral therapy, taking medication, or considering a surgical approach.
  • Give your partner the chance to ask questions.

Experts say that people with overactive bladders often overestimate how much the news will embarrass or upset their partner. You’ll probably be a lot more concerned than they will. And by trusting them enough to tell them about your condition, you could make your relationship much stronger than before.


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Reviewed by Arefa Cassoobhoy, MD, MPH on July 16, 2013

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