OAB: Talking With Your Partner
What You Should Say
- Start the conversation slowly. If you’ve been avoiding going to certain places, let your partner know you’re worried about not making it to the bathroom. Then wait to see what your partner says in response.
- If you’re discussing becoming sexually intimate, let your partner know why you have concerns.
- Explain OAB to your partner. Let your partner know that millions of women and men of all ages have OAB. Come armed with information -- the National Association for Continence (NAFC) is a good source.
- Tell your partner what treatments you’re trying, whether it’s behavioral therapy, medication, or a surgical approach.
- Don’t expect an immediate response. Give your partner a chance to take in what you’ve said and ask questions.
Experts say that people with OAB often overestimate how much the news will upset their partner. Having the conversation is probably a lot harder for you. By trusting them enough to tell them about your condition, you could make your relationship stronger than before.