Dealing with Divorce
Are your parents getting divorced? You are not alone. About half of all
marriages end in divorce. But dealing with divorce isn't easy. The divorce
process can be painful and sad for everybody involved (parents, kids,
grandparents, close friends, and more).
Why Are My Parents Divorcing?
There are two basic reasons why most people get divorced:
- They cannot get along with each other.
- They don't feel connected to each other anymore.
If your parents can't get along, you may have noticed that they fight a lot.
While most married couples fight occasionally, some folks get to the point
where they always fight. This can be very unpleasant for everybody.
If your parents don't feel connected, you may notice that they do not spend
time together unless they have to. Again, this is normal -- to a point. Every
couple will have times when they feel closer to each other and times when they
don't. But some couples get to the point where they have not felt connected for
a long time. This can be very lonely and sad for them.
Are My Parents Getting Divorced Because of Me?
Parents do not get divorced because of their children. If your parents are
divorcing, it is because of problems in their relationship -- not because of
you or anything you did or said.
Can I Try to Get My Parents Back Together?
This is not a good idea. Trying to get your parents back together can put
you in the middle of their fighting, which is not a fun place to be. Your
parents' relationship is their responsibility. Try to stay out of their
fighting, and let them resolve their own problems.
What Does Custody Mean?
If you are under 18, you are considered a minor and one or both of your
parents will have custody of you. "Custody" means who is legally
responsible for you and whom you will live with. There are three types of
custody: primary custody, joint legal custody, and joint physical custody.
Primary Custody. With primary custody, you live with one parent most
of the time and visit the other parent several times a month. A typical primary
custody arrangement is when you live with your mom and visit your dad every
other weekend. But, this is just one type of arrangement. Some teens live with
their dads and visit their moms on weekends.