Dealing with Divorce
Who Will Have Custody of Me?
Custody and living arrangements are determined by your parents and the
divorce judge. Sometimes parents will work out custody and living arrangements
before going to divorce court. Other times, parents will let the judge
Usually, the person you live with will have custody of you. About 75% of the
time, children live with their moms. About 10% of the time, they live with
their dads. And 15% of the time, they live with both parents at different
Can I Choose Which Parent to Live With?
Many states allow children to decide on the parent they want to live with
after they reach a certain age. But every state has different laws on this
Usually, a judge will make the final decision but consider what the child
wants. Generally, the older you are, the more likely a judge will let you live
with the parent you want.
Dealing with Divorce: Overcoming Bad Feelings
Feeling sad, angry, depressed, or anxious because your parents are getting
divorced is normal. Usually, these feelings are worst when your parents first
get divorced. Over time, they should get better, but it is normal to still feel
Try talking to your friends, especially if their parents are divorced, too.
They may know how you are feeling.
Seeing a therapist can help as well. The therapist can help you work through
your feelings and may recommend group therapy. With group therapy, you can
share your feelings with other teens going through the same thing, and learn
ways to cope with the problems and emotions of divorce.