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Dealing with Divorce

Who Will Have Custody of Me?

Custody and living arrangements are determined by your parents and the divorce judge. Sometimes parents will work out custody and living arrangements before going to divorce court. Other times, parents will let the judge decide.

Usually, the person you live with will have custody of you. About 75% of the time, children live with their moms. About 10% of the time, they live with their dads. And 15% of the time, they live with both parents at different times.

Can I Choose Which Parent to Live With?

Many states allow children to decide on the parent they want to live with after they reach a certain age. But every state has different laws on this matter.

Usually, a judge will make the final decision but consider what the child wants. Generally, the older you are, the more likely a judge will let you live with the parent you want.

Dealing with Divorce: Overcoming Bad Feelings

Feeling sad, angry, depressed, or anxious because your parents are getting divorced is normal. Usually, these feelings are worst when your parents first get divorced. Over time, they should get better, but it is normal to still feel upset sometimes.

Try talking to your friends, especially if their parents are divorced, too. They may know how you are feeling.

Seeing a therapist can help as well. The therapist can help you work through your feelings and may recommend group therapy. With group therapy, you can share your feelings with other teens going through the same thing, and learn ways to cope with the problems and emotions of divorce.


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