Helping a Family Member Who Has PTSD - Topic Overview
How can I take care of myself?
Helping a person
with PTSD can be hard on you. You may have your own feelings of fear and anger
about the trauma. You may feel guilty because you wish your family member would
just forget his or her problems and get on with life. You may feel confused or
frustrated because your loved one has changed, and you may worry that your
family life will never get back to normal.
All of this can drain
you. It can affect your health and make it hard for you to help your loved one.
If you're not careful, you may get sick yourself, become depressed, or burn out
and stop helping your loved one.
To help yourself, you need to
take care of yourself and have other people help you.
Care for yourself
- Don't feel guilty or feel that you have to
know it all. Remind yourself that nobody has all the answers. It's normal to
feel helpless at times.
- Don't feel bad if things change slowly. You
cannot change anyone. People have to change themselves.
- Take care
of your physical and mental health. If you feel yourself getting sick or often
feel sad and hopeless, see your doctor.
- Don't give up your outside
life. Make time for activities and hobbies you enjoy. Continue to see your
- Take time to be by yourself. Find a quiet place to gather
your thoughts and "recharge."
- Get regular
exercise, even just 10 minutes at a time. Exercise is
a healthy way to deal with stress.
- Eat healthy foods. When you are
busy, it may seem easier to eat fast food than to prepare healthy meals. But
healthy foods will give you more energy to carry you through the
- Remember the good things. It's easy to get weighed down by
worry and stress. But don't forget to see and celebrate the good things that
happen to you and your family.
difficult times, it is important to have people in your life who you can depend
on. These people are your support network. They can help you with everyday
jobs, like taking a child to school, or by giving you love and understanding.
You may get support from:
- Family members.
coworkers, and neighbors.
- Members of your religious or spiritual
- Support groups.
- Doctors and other health
For more information, see the topic
Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder.