If you feel threatened, you
must have a
plan for dealing with a threatening situation. If a
family member or someone else has threatened to harm you or your child, seek
- If you need immediate help, call911.
the National Domestic Violence Hotline 1-800-799-SAFE (1-800-799-7233) or see the website at www.ndvh.org. for free, confidential
counseling and information about local community resources.
someone: the police, a trusted friend, a spiritual adviser, or a health
professional. If the incident occurred at work, contact your human resources
department for help.
- Find local
resources that can help in a crisis. Your local YMCA,
YWCA, police department, mental health clinic, or hospital has information on
shelters and safe homes.
- Be alert to warning signs, such as
threats or drunkenness, so that you can avoid a dangerous situation. If you
cannot predict when violence may occur, have an exit plan for use in an
- If a child tells you that he or she has been abused, stay
calm. Tell the child that you believe him or her and that you will do your best
to keep him or her safe. Report the abuse to the local police or child
protective services agency. For more information, see the topic
Child Abuse and Neglect.
If you are no longer living with a violent person, contact the
police to obtain a restraining order if your abuser continues to pursue you and
act violently toward you.
If you know someone who may be a victim of violent behavior
Here are some things you can do to help a friend or
- Let your friend know you are willing to listen
whenever she or he wants to talk. Don't confront your friend if she or he is
not ready to talk. Encourage your friend to talk with her or his health
professional, human resources manager, and supervisor to see what resources
might be available.
- Tell your friend that the abuse is not her or
his fault and that no one deserves to be abused. Remind your friend that
violence is against the law and that help is available. Be understanding if she
or he is unable to leave. She or he knows the situation best and when it is
safest to leave.
- If your friend has children, gently point out
that you are concerned that the violence is affecting them. Many people do not
understand that their children are being harmed until someone else talks about
- Encourage and help your friend develop a
safety plan. This plan will help keep your friend and
her or his children safe during a violent incident, when preparing to leave,
and after leaving.
The most important step is to help your friend contact local
domestic violence groups. There are programs across the country that provide
options for safety, legal support, support, and needed information and
services. To find the nearest program:
- Call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE (1-800-799-7233), or see the website at www.ndvh.org.
- Call the National Center for Victims of Crime at 1-800-FYI-CALL (1-800-394-2255), or see the website at www.ncvc.org/ncvc/main.aspx?dbID=dash_Home.