Focus on your concern for your loved one's safety and try to form a partnership. Don't confront delusional or inappropriate thoughts.
"Try to listen and empathize whole-heartedly with your loved one's perspectives, even when his or her beliefs seem outlandish, bizarre, distorted, or delusional," says Jason Bermak, MD, PhD, a psychiatrist in San Francisco.
If your loved one is paranoid, talk with him alone so he doesn't feel threatened by a group, says San Diego psychiatrist David M. Reiss, MD.
If he's not paranoid, having a group of known and trusted friends or family members talk to him may give him a sense of agreement and concern. A group is also best if he has a tendency to "turn" on one person.
How to Encourage Them to Get Help
Reiss suggests following these guidelines when you and others talk to your loved one about getting treatment:
Don't use a threatening or confrontational tone.
Close and trusted family members or friends should lead the conversation.
Don't include people your loved one doesn't trust or feel close to, which can cause more anxiety, fear, or confusion.
Get Support for Yourself
It’s really stressful to have someone you’re close to deal with a mental illness such as schizophrenia.
"Support groups for patients and families are not only helpful, they are essential," Bermak says. They can also help you get your loved one into treatment.
Try these organizations for help:
The National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) has an information helpline (800-950-NAMI), referral service, and programs for individuals and families.
The Treatment Advocacy Center has information about treatment options. Or try its cell phone app, the Psychiatric Crisis Resources Kit, which has resources for emergency situations.
Local psychiatric hospitals, clinics, and universities run support groups and give referrals to other groups.